In life, everyone wants to do something that is meaningful that serves a purpose. One of the best methods to fulfill a meaningful purpose is through helping others.
A satisfied feeling will develop within people when they have done something to make a difference for society or a loved one. People do not need a lot of money to make a big difference in society because it is not how much money they have, but how much heart people put into their time and support to the activities.
Benefits from helping others:
• Increase happiness
• Increase a boost in a feel-good part of the brain
• Remind people that they relatively lucky
• Feel connected to others
• Feel needed and effective
• Take the mind off worries for a while
• Feel generous
• Add a sense of purpose and meaning to life
Tips on helping others
• Call a friend to see how she's doing
• Cook a meal for the family
• Let a car merges in front
• Smile at a stranger in the street
• Hold the elevator door for others
There are positives to caring and looking after others- we all just have to find the good in our own situations!
This recipe is for any caregiver or busy family on the go! The combination of the root veggies with the savoy lentils, is a winner. The only hard part is the cutting of vegetables for a half hour then throw in the Crockpot.
1 medium onion, chopped
Salt to taste
2 medium carrots, diced
1 1/2 cups brown or green lentils, rinsed
6 cups of low sodium veggie stock
2 medium-size sweet potatoes
2 tablespoons tomato paste
1 handful of spinach or baby kale
Cut all vegetables and add into your crockpot, add stock, tomato paste and desired spices/ salt.
Leave on high heat for 5-6 hours. Serves 6 to 8 people. Freezes great up to 6 months.
Caregiver Tip For The Weekend:
“Don't let a day go by with out giggling”
Luckily, we have the strength to help each other stay in the eye of the storm and not be caught in it. Our mental resources, pooled together, are more than enough to give us all a bit of relief. Here are just a few:
2. Listening to music
4. Hugging an animal
5. Getting hugs and kisses from grandchildren
8. Riding a bike
9. Painting your nails
12. Walking your dog
14. Playing mindless computer games
16. Hanging out with your children
18. Getting a haircut
19. Eating cupcakes
20. Going for an early morning run
21. Practicing jiu jitsu
22. Having a glass of wine
23. Experiencing the garden
24. Breathing (deeply)
25. Drinking tea
26. Munching on chocolate
27. Lighting candles
28. Sipping lattes
29. Talking on the phone to friends
30. Making yourself smile
31. Going to NASCAR races
32. Taking hot showers
34. Relaxing in bubble baths
36. Turning up the music loud (and singing along!)
37. Getting goofy
38. Chatting with best friends
39. Getting hugs and kisses (in general)
What are some little things you do that bring you pleasure in the midst of chaos?
Looking after your loved one, neighbor or friend can be very fulfilling yet overwhelming at times... this week try to put aside one hour for yourself to do something you enjoy:)
A must have book, of inspiration, caring, hope and motivation. The characters come alive and show us understanding of life lessons we can all use in the time of caring for another. If you are looking for a fall season read this one is for you caregivers!
This recipe is not only fast to make, delicious for the whole family but will warm your heart and smell amazing through your whole house.
12 apples, peeled, cored and sliced
2 cinnamon sticks or (4 tbsp of sprinkled cinnamon)
1/4 of a lemon peel plus 1 tsp of the juice
Place sliced apples, cinnamon sticks, and lemon peel in the slow cooker. Drizzle with lemon juice. Set to low and cook for 4 hours. Remove and discard cinnamon sticks and lemon peel. Stir or blend with mixer until desired texture. Serve warm or chilled.
If you are feeling like you need something sweet, sprinkle on a tablespoon of brown sugar!
We understand how important having a positive attitude is to being a caregiver – and feeling good about yourself. Remember, life is 10 percent what happens to you and 90 percent how you react to it. That may be a hard concept to internalize, but if we are successful, it can make a big difference in our lives.
Try some techniques that can help you develop a more positive attitude:
-Create some time for yourself EVERY day. Solitude allows us to develop our inner resources and feelings of independence.
-Focus on the humorous aspects of daily caregiving - and I know there are many if we allow ourselves to look at things that way. Laughter is therapeutic.
-Talk to yourself in positive ways with upbeat messages instead of the negative thoughts that make you feel lonely and depressed.
-Try hard to let go of what was so you can appreciate what is.
-Be patient with yourself. It's hard to change patterns of thinking - especially when we have so many reminders of how tough caregiving can be. Keep working on it.
-Spend time with positive friends. What a treat that can be!
-The stress of caregiving can't always be eliminated, but your reaction to it can be minimized. Take a deep breath and think before you react.
-Be in touch with what really matters to you. Make plans to accomplish what is important for you to feel joy, satisfaction, peace and good about yourself.
-Buy yourself some flowers.
Could this recipe be any easier! If you are looking to make it healthier just add a drizzle of olive oil to your dish instead of butter- add any veggies you like instead of potatoes and beans: broccoli, cauliflower, mushrooms, peppers ect.. This way you can relax dinner is done and spend some quality time with your family or a good book:)
Caregiver Tip of the Week:
Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same.
-- Francesca Reigler
Why use a journal? Journaling therapy has been proven to help with stress management and emotional health and wellbeing. Your hopes, dreams, plans, needs, desires, aspirations, anger, pain, fear, guilt, worry and grief all put into a safe, personal space.
There are a lot of ways to make use of journals, here are some of them:
1) The Unwinding Page - write everything crowding up your brain-space, just dump it onto the journal pages.
2) Event Journaling:This is taking a specific thing that happened and writing only about it – it can be a positive or a negative event, go through all the juicy details and just get it off your chest, like you would to your most trusted friend.
3) Lists: Lists are a great way to focus on specific things. Try a list of Dreams, a List of Triggers (things that set you off, times your coping skills are less than great, your weak spots), List of Things I Love, List of People I Love, List of Needs, List of Support People. Things I Love About My Life, etc.
4) Planning Pages – journals are great for writing down plans and figuring things out, talking yourself through what you might do, need, say, etc...
5) Doodling- helps d-stress a busy or anxious mind.
6) Worry Pages - purge the worry - write it down and then check your language to see if you are making things worse than they are, where your point of power is with your worries and make an effort to let them go.
7) Gratitude Pages - journal about things you are grateful for - it is a wonderful lift of the spirit and can help focus life on the positive, even in the midst of chaos.
Hello! As a caregiver, mother and social service worker I have learned many life lessons through hands on experience. My dream for you is to make your journey through caregiving a cherished one.