We all get wrapped up in life, focusing on our own journeys, (we are only human) but what happens when your parents or grandparents need our attention. Can we all come together as siblings to build a plan where even out of country family, friends and relatives can help. Here are some easy steps to think about:
-Create a safe place for your loved one to stay (their own house, your house with extra room ect..)
-Start talking to your family members about there role in caring (calling mom every Friday night, talking her out for the day bi-weekly). Put your plans in writing, print and send to each member in your loved ones life to keep them aware of it.
-Share information, normally the person who is looking after the loved one full-time can keep everyone else updated monthly by e-mail, skype, calling or in person. Keeping lines of communication open so everyone is on the same page.
-If problems arise—be specific and brain storm solutions together. One sibling may know of a community program the others are not aware about.
-Ask each other questions, especially dealing with any concerns.
-Make one person in charge of the finances be honest with each other, if you are supporting your loved ones meals, rent ect.. ask for help from the others. Make the others know the time, energy and ongoing support you are giving (example: drives to and from dr. appointments, getting taxes done, laundry daily ect..)
-Emotional burden, have a support system with each other and ask how the main caregiver is holding up & how you can help.
-Physical care, if your loved one needs more help make sure all members of the family are involved before making any big decisions. You don't want to step on any toes. Review your loved ones condition every month, what you have noticed is better, worse or the same and share with others.
Realize with all the family, friends and supportive organizations out there you should never feel alone in caregiving. So pick up that phone and inform your family, they may surprise you with the ongoing help you can receive.
A BETTER YOU IS A BETTER CAREGIVER!.
Hello! As a caregiver, mother and social service worker I have learned many life lessons through hands on experience. My dream for you is to make your journey through caregiving a cherished one.