Guilt is a driver. I’ve spoken to many caregivers who dealt with guilt issues. There’s so much guilt around parenting, setting boundaries, am I doing enough, am I making the right decisions, am I doing the right thing for my family… Guilt isn’t only the driver, it’s also what makes people so sick. But then people start making decisions about what really feels right for them vs. what they think they should be doing – because the “should” is the guilt. If you put the “should” in there – “the book said I should do this,” “the article said I should do that” – you start making yourself unhappy and uncomfortable and you can’t make good decisions.
Each caregiver has to make a decision based on what fits them, we are all unique in our own way right? It’s not as if we can write a recipe for success as a caregiver. The only thing that works is for each person to identify what is important for them and then make decisions around that. I guess that’s a recipe in itself!
Hello! As a caregiver, mother and social service worker I have learned many life lessons through hands on experience. My dream for you is to make your journey through caregiving a cherished one.